READ THESE PERSONAL TESTIMONIES FROM DR. BUTKINS' CLIENTS
"Dr. Butkins played an integral part in my recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. He provided me with knowledge about the disease of addiction and taught me how to overcome the triggers that would lead me to go out and use or drink. Dr. Butkins is a very knowledgeable, respectable, and professional counselor. He truly cares for his clients and you can tell from the minute you first meet him that he is a man who has genuine concern for the addict and is willing to do what it takes to help you. I am forever grateful to Dr. Butkins for teaching and giving me the tools necessary to maintain my recovery from alcohol and substance abuse." John - Orlando, FL January 2009
“I met Dr. Butkins when I went to a counseling session with my alcoholic husband about 2.5 years ago. He is a highly skilled professional and is very knowledgeable on the disease of alcoholism and its affect upon the families of alcoholics. When we met, I was sick with worry and fear, angry, and unhappy. Living each day in fear of what awful thing would happen next, both my mental and physical health were beginning to suffer. When my husband went off to a rehabilitation center, I continued to see Dr. Butkins. As he challenged my thinking and attitudes and encouraged me to recognize and deal with my feelings, my mind began to open and allow me to look at life situations and the disease of alcoholism in ways that would never have occurred to me on my own. He sent me to Al-Anon where I found other people affected by a loved one’s alcoholism that were working the 12 Steps and willing to help me in my recovery. Today, there is less worry and fear in my life and more serenity. I know that Dr. Butkins’ skill, wisdom, and compassion guided me to this better way of living. I will be forever grateful.”Karen, Lake Mary, Florida
"Dr. Pete probably saved my life 7 months ago when I came to him in October, 2005. He has a great talent in evaluating problems and making you aware of them. He has helped me turn my life around and helped me see things about myself that I have been able to work on; he also helped me help others. It is the best money I have spent in many years. Thank you for being there for me." Richard A. March, 2006 "Dr. Butkins has been treating me since I was in middle school; later on at 19, (he helped me again) I had to see someone I felt comfortable with. He talks to me like a friend, not a doctor. I choose him over any other (counselor) because I look forward to seeing him; he’s just like one of my own friends. He’s very real, but not in your face;he doesn’t sugarcoat, but he’s very understanding and kind. He will help you make progress through anything and leave you feeling better than when you came in." Jerry K. April 2006 "Dr. Butkins is the best thing that ever happened to me. I would have been dead a long time ago if it were not for him. I drank way too much and wanted to die. He has brought me through a lot; because of him I can handle anything and I love myself today." Janie D. April, 2006
"Dr. Peter Butkins has provided much needed support and direction during emotional turmoil in my life." Ken H. - Longwood, FL April, 2006
"Dr. Butkins is an amazing guy. He has helped me so very much. When I first came to him I was ready to give up on life. With his help and guidance I pulled myself up. I’m now accepting a full paid scholarship to Stetson. Dr. Butkins saved my life. Thanks for everything." Ann A. - Orlando, FL April, 2006
In order to combat such a powerful force, we need to stay out of denial and in the war by spending time with others who are in the same position as us. Some will be fresh in the program with new battle scars; we need them as reminders. Others will be veterans, we need them for hope and inspiration and direction. Together we can survive and prosper, making this a better world, without addiction taking over. We can stop it in our generation; in this generation!!!
Whether your addiction is drugs, alcohol or another person, it is important to continue treatment with a continual regimen. The twelve-step meetings and program is ideal for this as it is designed for this purpose. If you will not attend these meetings, develop a daily regimen of prayer, spiritual reading, contact with healthy people and helping someone. Make your amends to those you have hurt after you are 'sober' a while, say three or four months. In the meantime, make family amends by staying abstinent and doing your best at making the family healthy.
It's humbling to know that a drug and/or alcohol affected mind and body is not capable of stable and logical thinking. Yet it is necessary to have this humility in order to get sober and clean.
I received phone calls from two friends who called me after doing interventions this holiday. Both asked how to mend the damage done. When an intervention is done without being planned, it can be disastrous. The 'user' can resist the intervention for many reasons, mainly because it is done 'off the cuff.'
An effective intervention needs to be planned with commitment and follow through. There must be a script that is written, rehearsed, and modified to fit the situation. Timing and attitude must be right and there has to be a leader. Those who cannot yet be logical need to be trained or asked to sit out.
All in all, an intervention has to be structured. I have developed the rules and a method that can be learned with some study. This educational tool can be found on my Ipod which is available on this site. Buy the MP3 or MP4 for just $99.00 It may save a life.
Love and Peace,
Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist
P.S. No drugs or alcohol over the holiday (meaning today).
Hang in there with your relatives or whomever you're with over the holidays. All of us have our stories and we usually do not tell others what is going on. Practice love and giving. You'll find a new way or return to your way of selflessness and purpose.
Sometimes we have difficulty coping with and resolving our past hurts because the feelings are so intense. It is then that we tend to blame another and 'lock up our intense fear and resentment. Often, a crisis will provide the opportunity to realize the extent of the pain and we can let it seep out little by little, channel the feelings to the source where they were first felt and, thus work toward closure. The operation takes as long as it takes. The pain is nowhere as painful as the alternatives.