Addicts and Alcoholics and Relapse - How you can help.
Posted by: drbutkins in parenting a teen drug abuser, parenting a teen alcoholic, family recovery, drug addiction treatment, addiction recovery on
Feb 07, 2010
There is a behavioral phenomenom that describes many addicts and alcoholics. There is a lack of discipline and inability to focus on Now along with a preoccupation with self and unconcern for others that seems to be inherent and stemming from the disease but also affected by many other variables. These include, DNA, family of origin problems, gender, lifestyle... These are difficult to identify in the individual and difficult to measure. However, when an addict and/or alcoholic becomes desparate, honest and clear-minded enough to become aware of the problem and the depth of it, he or she can become motivated to recover and take certain actions that lead to recovery.
However, the addicted person usually forgets that he or she has these characteristics after being sober and clean for a while. Therefore, there is a need of consistent reminders of the importance of recovery and the accompanying behaviors such as prayer, meetings, constant contact with recovering people and a grateful approach to life that makes 'giving back' a pleasure.
When enablers pay the alcoholic/addict "way," the door becomes open for the person to return to the old thinking and old behavior. If you want him or her to recover, go to Al-Anon and find out how others do this successfully. Enlist their support.
Love and Peace,
Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist
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